Tuesday, 27 March 2012

Making family chores fun…(Or How to Motivate a Ten Year Old Boy!)

I live in a household that is not your average 2.4 family. There is me a 39 yr old SciFi loving, single ex Rock Goddess turned Mother and carer. My son, Evan-Eric a hyper, very intelligent 10year old and we both live in my birth home after retuning 6 years ago to live and care for my disabled mum who is 74. She has COPD and a heart problem, mentally still on the ball she gets extremely frustrated and cantankerous but I suppose that is understandable if the mind is willing but the body isn't....

I do 100% of the household chores - helped a little if Mum is feeling up to it she tries to wash up or tidy a little in the kitchen but mostly it is all down to me.

Evan is your typical male specimen! Unable to see anything unless it jumps out on him and screams 'here I am'! I have tried from a very early age to get him to notice things that need doing without being asked. He has always been in charge of the composting for our wormery and recycling the paper, plastic and tins for which he receives £2.50 per week pocket money. IF he notices anything and does the job without being asked then he receives a pocket money top up - bringing in the milk from the doorstep, tidying away the crockery after tea etc but it takes a LOT of effort for me to remind him! Why help when you can play with Lego?

So we have now got the PMA game -Positive Mental Attitude. We watched a documentary on TV about the way thinking reflects on your immediate space and he was so taken up with this concept he has now had 9 positive days at school in a row, he has looked at his sleep patterns and his diet and informed me that he is now a looking after himself!

Last night he helped around the garden without being asked and put rubbish away, sorted his play house out and basically was just so helpful I am actually wondering if he has been cloned by the Stepford son company!

I love doing housework with him, when he is actually in the right frame of mind he loves to do things where he can really see the effort that he has put in, last Autumn he spent 14 hours with me in the garden clearing it before winter and I think he talked of nothing else for 2 weeks afterwards.
I love to hear him talk so positively.

Making housework fun is one thing but when your children become older it also has to be they WAY they look at tasks and jobs and it has taken a long time for Evan to realise that I am not the only capable person in this house and house work is teamwork!

Me? Well my idea of heaven is turning on the music and iron whilst I boogie! I don't get pocket money for this but my butt enjoys it!